3. Read and Discuss: Arnold Beekes, “Listening: The Forgotten Business Skill,” Fast
4. Leadership at Work: Listen Like a Professional
The fastest way to become a great listener is to act like a professional listener, such as a
clinical psychologist who uses listening to heal another person. Therapists drop their own
point of view to concentrate on the patient’s point of view. The therapist listens totally,
drawing out more information rather than thinking about a response.
The next time you are in a conversation in which the other person talks about some problem
or concern, practice professional listening by doing the following:
• Hold a steady gaze on the person’s left eye (not the nose or face, but the left eye)—use a
In Class: The instructor can divide students into pairs—listener and speaker—in class to practice
this exercise. The “speaking” students can be asked to talk about some small problem or
annoyance they encountered in the previous day or two. The “listening” students can be given
instructions to not speak during the first trial and instead just maintain a soft gaze into the
speaker’s left eye and respond only with body language (facial expressions and nods). The
It works well to have the students choose a second pairing and redo the exercise with a new
problem. The only difference the second time is that the “listener” role is given fewer
restrictions, so the listener can make brief comments such as to paraphrase or ask a short
question. The listeners, however, should keep spoken comments to a minimum and definitely
should not offer their own ideas or point of view. After the students finish, the instructor can