COMM5 Instructor Manual Chapter 3
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are situated in certain formal, hierarchical positions. Students respect and honor their
teachers by acknowledging their higher positions of authority and status. The United States,
however, is a low power-distance culture. People demonstrate respect for one another by
addressing each other more as equals regardless of the formal positions they may hold. So,
as uncomfortable as I felt, I tried to call my professors by their first names when they
suggested it was appropriate to do so. I reminded myself that in the United States doing so
was culturally appropriate and not a sign of disrespect.
Another culture shock experience I had to reconcile as a result of the differences
between my collectivist values and the individualistic values of the United States had to do
with disagreeing with my professor. In the United States, students learn to form opinions
and defend their viewpoints and are rewarded for doing so in classroom presentations and
debates. Professors perceive students who challenge their viewpoints with evidence and
reasoning as intelligent and motivated. Students who do so are perceived very differently in
the Chinese culture, where public disagreement with an authority figure is not only rare, but
also inappropriate. Because of this value clash, I found it difficult to express and defend my
opinions in class, especially if they differed from something the professor said. Doing so, it
seemed to me, would be extremely disrespectful. Yet I observed classmates doing so and
being lauded for their comments. Many times, I chose not to say anything during a face-to–
face meeting with a professor, but found the courage to write an e-mail later. In the online
environment, I found I could be honest and explain my disagreement with respect.
Fortunately, many of my professors soon realized my cultural-values dilemma and adapted
their communication styles toward me. Still today, though, I prefer to present my
viewpoints concerning controversial issues in a paper, a letter, an e-mail message, or an
online post rather than in a meeting or other face-to-face discussion. I have found a way to
honor my collectivist values in a way that also allows me to express myself in an
individualistic cultural setting.
Finally, I recall struggling with how to behave in group settings as a result of the cultural
differences along the individualism versus collectivism continuum. When I first arrived in the
United States, I was very conflict avoidant, probably because in collectivistic cultures
maintaining the harmony of the collective is an important priority. My peers and professors
in the United States negatively perceived the approaches I had learned to value and enact
in small group settings . My conflict avoidant style—which I engaged in as a sign of
respect—actually frustrated some of my group members. They perceived it as a sign that I
did not care about the group’s success and was a “slacker.” I felt frustrated, too, as I tried
to help the group become more cohesive and successful by avoiding conflict! I eventually
learned that, to be successful, we all had to begin by being upfront about where we come
from and our values. Once we all understood the differences, we could create a workable
plan for success.
I have been in the United States for seven years now, am married, and have a son. I
have also earned my Ph.D. and am working as an assistant professor of communication at
the University of Southern Illinois at Edwardsville. Even now, I continue to learn new things
about how to communicate best in this individualistic culture as compared to my collectivist
home in China. Based on my experiences, I would have to say the most important thing for
successful communication when interacting with people who come from a different place on
the collectivism-individualism continuum is for all of us to always be mindful.
Discussion Questions
1. Why is it so hard for Min Liu to conform to American cultural communication
expectations? When Americans go abroad, they are taught “when in Rome, do as the
Romans do,” but what cultural inferences can you make about why this same advice does