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True / False
1. Topical segmentation is the most effective way to manage relationship dialectics.
a.
True
b.
False
2. According to your textbook, a platonic relationship is less intimate than a romantic relationship.
a.
True
b.
False
3. Your Johari window is not fixed; it will change over time to reflect changes in your relationships.
a.
True
b.
False
4. Some people achieve more closeness in online relationships than in equivalent face-to–face relationships.
a.
True
b.
False
Multiple Choice
5. Jocelyn is one of Violet’s Facebook friends. They went to high school together but never saw each other outside of
school. When Facebook reminds Jocelyn that it’s Violet’s birthday, she writes “Happy Birthday!” on her wall, but they do
not communicate otherwise. Jocelyn and Violet are ___________________.
a.
acquaintances
b.
friends
c.
close friends
d.
intimates
6. What is the difference between an acquaintance and a friend?
a.
Friends are people that we have known for a longer period of time.
b.
Acquaintances are classified by context, and friends are not.
c.
Friends are people with whom we have voluntarily negotiated more personal relationships
d.
None of these.
7. All of the following are guidelines for maintaining friendships except:
a.
you must share similar values
b.
you must listen and respond to your friends
c.
you must share thoughts and feelings with each other
d.
you must be proactive in setting up times to spend together
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8. Linh is upset with her boyfriend, Aaron. Instead of telling Aaron why she is upset, Linh talks to her friends and her
mother about her feelings. When Aaron asks what is wrong, Linh replies, “Nothing.” What guideline about
communicating in intimate relationships is Linh violating?
a.
Be faithful to your partner.
b.
Be responsive in meeting with your partner’s needs.
c.
Be dependable.
d.
Be transparent.
9. Which of the following statements is true of women who identify with the feminine co-culture?
a.
They are more likely than men to develop close friendships through joint activities.
b.
They are more likely than men to share their thoughts and feelings.
c.
They are more likely than men to develop close friendships with people they feel that they can depend on.
d.
They are more likely than men to demonstrate their friendship by doing favors for one another.
10. Todd knows he is a talented public speaker, and his audiences praise his speeches. Todd’s speaking talent falls into
which pane of his Johari window?
a.
secret
b.
unknown
c.
open
d.
blind
11. Cassie knows that she has difficulty reading. She does not disclose this information to her friends. This information
falls into the pane of her Johari window labeled ____________________.
a.
secret
b.
unknown
c.
open
d.
blind
12. The first sign that a relationship is coming apart is known as the ________________.
a.
maintenance stage
b.
stagnating stage
c.
circumscribing stage
d.
avoiding stage
13. Susan knows her husband blushes when praised, but he is not aware he does. This would fall into the quadrant of the
Johari pane labeled _______________.
a.
secret
b.
unknown
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c.
open
d.
blind
14. Nick wants to spend lots of time with his new partner, David. He likes feeling like a bonded couple and enjoys the
time they share. However, he also doesn’t want to lose his feeling of independence. What relationship dialectic is Nick
struggling with?
a.
autonomy/connection
b.
openness/closedness
c.
novelty-predictability
d.
all of these
15. The relationship stage characterized by keeping a relationship operating smoothly and satisfactorily is
_____________________.
a.
coming together
b.
maintaining
c.
circumscribing
d.
reframing
16. Partners ____ by putting their needs or desires on hold to attend to the needs of their partner or the relationship.
a.
surrender
b.
forfeit
c.
forgo
d.
none of these
17. A recent study found that Americans are more honest with family members ____________ than they are
________________.
a.
online; in person
b.
over the phone; online
c.
in person; over the phone
d.
in person; online
18. We use digital technology to maintain relationships. Most of our ongoing relationships are characterized by
____________, which means that we use more than one medium to maintain our relationships.
a.
medium multiplicity
b.
medium multiplexity
c.
media multiplicity
d.
media multiplexity
19. What is it called when a couple compromises between the desires of one partner and the desires of the other?
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a.
neutralization
b.
topical segmentation
c.
reframing
d.
temporal selection
20. Delia and Eloise are so bored of their routines that they decide to completely disregard predictability and spend a week
doing lots of new things they have never done. This is an example of which strategy of managing relationship dialectics?
a.
Temporal selection
b.
Topical segmentation
c.
Neutralization
d.
Reframing
21. All of the following are mentioned by your textbook as reasons for the termination of a relationship except
____________________.
a.
poor communication
b.
bad hygiene
c.
rejection
d.
boredom
22. To successfully terminate a relationship, we should ___________________________________.
a.
avoid the other person
b.
spend less and less time together until we don’t see each other
c.
be direct, open, and honest
d.
persuade the other person to withdraw from the relationship
Essay
23. Compare the guidelines for developing acquaintances with those for friends and intimates. How are they different?
How are they the same?
Answer not provided.
24. Imagine you are a relationship advice columnist. You receive the email below. Using what you know about
relationship dialectics, respond to this person. Be sure to use at least 3 terms from the chapter:
Dear Communication Expert,
I’m having a problem in my relationship. I love spending time with my boyfriend Max. We have fun together, he’s really
nice, and I really like him. However, I don’t want to be with him all of the time. I like doing my own thing too. My friends
say this is weird and that if I love Max, I should want to be with him as much as possible. Max also seems hurt when I say
I want time alone. Right now, I’m just giving in and spending most of my time with him because it seems like the right
thing to do; but I’m not happy. I don’t want to break up with Max, but I also don’t want him to be my whole life. Is
something wrong with me? Can I fix this problem?
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Thank you!
Confused in California
25. Define the four panes of the Johari window. Describe your own Johari window, and explain how it is different in a
relationship with a family member compared with a relationship with a classmate.