trying to reduce our uncertainty about others by finding areas we have in common. In this
Answer: Physical attraction acts as a filter to limit the possibilities for relationships. We
use physical attraction to make an initial assessment of the desirability of pursuing a
relationship. We tend to seek out others who are somewhat similar to us physically.
Sexual attraction usually goes in tandem with physical attraction, but physical attraction
does not automatically mean sexual attraction. Proximity is an essential element that
helps determine to whom we will be attracted. We are simply more likely to come into
contact with people who are physically close. This proximity also increases the likelihood
of communication. The ability to exchange information increases our ability to make an
informed choice. This does not mean that people who are physically distant cannot
initiate and develop relationships, but it is more difficult and takes more time and energy
to accomplish. The Internet has helped in this area to open us up to people who are far
away. Similarity in attitudes, values, beliefs, and behaviors is also a factor in attraction.
We tend to like people who are like us. While differences may add spice to a
relationship, similarities are the real foundation of long-term relationships. Similarity may
also affect proximity in as much as we are more likely to come into contact with people
who share similar interests and activities. Complementarity affects attraction through our
assessment of how well the other person can satisfy our needs. When people are
attracted to others whose abilities, interests, and needs differ from but round out their
own, they share complementarity of abilities and needs. This increases the likelihood
that both people will have their needs met. In fact, we seek out people who can satisfy
our needs.
Learning Objective: LO 7.2 Describe the roles of communication in revealing
interpersonal attraction and initiating relationships.
Topic: Initiating Relationships
Difficulty Level: Difficult
Skill Level: Analyze It
Answer: We typically use one of three strategies to reduce uncertainty. With the passive
strategy, we seek information by observing people, scoping out situations, and so forth
before more actively working to reduce uncertainty. With the active strategy, we might
decide, after using the passive strategy, to check our perceptions of things with a third
party. Our final strategy, the interactive strategy, is communicating directly with the
person who has the most potential to reduce our uncertainty.
Learning Objective: LO 7.2 Describe the roles of communication in revealing
interpersonal attraction and initiating relationships.
Topic: Initiating Relationships