Hocker: Interpersonal Conflict, 10e TB-4 | 4
10. When Ken’s parents died, his sister was named as the executor of their estate. She gave all of
the good furniture to her kids and left only one old dresser for Ken’s kids. Ken was furious
with his sister because of this. Even though Ken felt “low power” in this situation, he decided
to maintain his relationship with his sister and encouraged his kids not to bring up the issue
with their cousins. Ken’s decision is an example of which of the following moves Lerner
suggests that people in low-power positions adopt?
a. Speaking up and presenting a balanced picture of strengths as well as weaknesses
b. Making clear what one’s beliefs, values, and priorities are and maintaining congruent
behaviors
c. Staying emotionally connected to significant others even when things get intense
d. Stating differences and allowing others to do the same
e. All of the answers are correct.
11. In order to ensure that there is a balance of power when dealing with large, impersonal
institutions through phone calls, one must avoid:
a. asking them to call back on unresolved issues.
b. identifying individuals on the phone by name.
c. being reluctant in escalating issues.
d. telling the institutions all the steps taken to get a response from them.
e. disobeying rules that seem ridiculous.
12. Which of the following is not an example of “metacommunication” used to balance power?
a. “Ok, so we have agreed that we will not bring up the issue of infidelity as we work out
this issue.”
b. “I am concerned that Sam is in a one-down position here since he has not been in the
company that long and people may not pay attention to his ideas.”
c. “You sure act like you are the most important person on the face of the planet.”
d. “When you call in your friends to testify on your behalf, I really feel like I have been
ganged up on.”
e. “If your pals Suzy and Sarah are going to be at the party, I’d like to bring one of my
other friends, too, just to make sure I have someone to talk with.”
13. Which of the following is not likely to balance the distribution of power in a conflict in favor
of a person feeling low power?
a. Validating or acknowledging the other
b. Announcing intended escalations
c. Asking the higher-power person what he or she needs