16. What escalates intimacy?
a. physical attractiveness
b. self-concept
c. self-disclosure
d. similarity
e. proximity
17. Which style of loving is a comfortable, best-friends kind of love that grows gradually to
create a stable and even-keeled companionship?
a. eros
b. storge
c. ludus
d. mania
e. pragma
True-False Items
18. Most relationships are personal, not social.
a. True
b. False
19. The value of social relationships lies more in what participants do than in who they are
because a variety of people could fulfill the same functions.
a. True
b. False
20. Passion must exist between two people for them to remain committed to a relationship.
a. True
b. False
21. Today, nearly 60% of couples live together before marrying.
a. True
b. False
22. When people begin to see themselves as friends, social norms and roles become less
important.
a. True
b. False
23. Opposing and continuous tensions in relationships are called relational dialectics.
a. True
b. False
24. For ludic lovers, love is a challenge, a puzzle, a game to be relished, but not one to lead to
commitment.
a. True
b. False
25. Stonewalling is refusing to discuss the issues that are causing tension in a relationship.
a. True
b. False
26. The development of a relational culture is part of the navigation stage of romantic
relationships.
a. True
b. False
27. In relationships, we do not need privacy and thus should be open for our partners.
a. True
b. False
28. As a rule, men assume more psychological responsibility for relationships than women.
a. True
b. False
29. Compared to face-to-face relationships, online relationships tend to form more rapidly.
a. True
b. False
30. Not confined to sexual passion, eros may be expressed in spiritual, intellectual, and
emotional ways.
a. True
b. False
31. Relational dialectics are normal in personal relationships.
a. True
b. False
32. Since each relationship is unique, there are few commonalities that explain how each
relationship develops.
a. True
b. False
33. Marital stability is closely linked to equitable divisions of money and material possessions.
a. True
b. False
34. The term “honeymoon” is used to describe the time in a relationship when a couple begins to
initially commit to each other.
a. True
b. False
Fill-in-the-Blank Items
35. Patterned ways of behaving and interpreting behavior are known as ____________________.
36. One way partners manage relational tension is ____________________, in which they assign
each need to certain spheres, issues, activities, or times.
37. What we put into a relationship that cannot be retrieved if the relationship ends are called
____________________.
38. The decision to remain in a relationship in spite of troubles, disappointments, sporadic
boredom, and lulls in passion is called ____________________.
39. Contradictory needs or tensions in personal relationships are called ____________________.
40. ____________________ negotiates a compromise in which each dialectical need is met to an
extent but neither is fully satisfied.
41. ____________________ are unique commitments between irreplaceable individuals who are
influenced by rules, relational dialectics, and surrounding contexts.
42. ____________________ is a response to relational dialectics that transcends the apparent
contradictory needs and redefines them as not really in opposition.
43. Equity between partners affects ____________________ with relationships.
44. ____________________ involves remembering, planning, and coordinating domestic
activities.
45. A private world of rules, understandings, meanings, and patterns of interacting that partners
create for their relationship is known as ____________________.
46. The intensely positive feelings that come to mind when we think about romantic intimacy is
called ____________________.
Essay Items
47. Intimate partner violence tends to follow a predictable cycle. Describe this cycle.
48. Researchers have identified six different styles of loving, each of which is valid in its own
right. List and briefly explain four of the six styles.
49. Name and briefly describe the three stages of romantic relationships.
TEST ITEMS ANSWER KEY
Multiple Choice Items
1. Chris says he loves Betsy but he’s not sure they have a future together. Chris’s feelings
toward Betsy indicate
2. Dana and Mally, romantic partners, really enjoy spending time together and miss each other
when they are not together. However, Dana really likes spending time alone doing her art,
and Mally misses reading her novels now that she and Dana are a couple and she has less
time to herself. They enjoy their couple time, but they also like being alone. Dana and Mally
are struggling with which relational dialectic?
3. Mally and Dana decide to read and do art while they are together. This satisfies their desires
to some extent, but Mally is left feeling like they did not quite get to spend time together and
Dana had a hard time concentrating on her work. Their response is best described as
4. Research indicates that, in general, the least effective and least satisfying response to the
tension generated by relational dialectics is
5. Trisha and her roommate Leena have a regular schedule of television shows that they watch.
Even though they enjoy their programs, sometimes they feel like they are missing out on
more exciting events on their college campus. Trisha and Leena are experiencing the ____
dialectic.
6. Which of these is a common reason communication researchers have found that people give
for not practicing safer sex?
7. What are the four stages in the cycle of intimate partner violence, in order?
8. All relationships have rules that guide how partners communicate. Rules are important for
which of the following reasons?
9. Sally and Jack have been seeing one another regularly since their Introduction to
Communication class ended. They have a great number of common interests and activities.
Lately though, Sally has mentioned to Jack her need to maintain her other male and female
friendship activities. Though Sally and Jack’s relationship remains strong, Sally’s comments
could be interpreted as which of the following stages of romantic relationships?
10. Which method of dealing with relational dialectics is the most complex?
11. The three broad stages of romantic relationships include
12. Which of the following is a way to manage dialectical tensions in a relationship?
13. Why are 92% of millennial men with children still doing less than half of parenting?
14. The three greatest influences on initial attraction in romantic relationships are
15. Which style of loving is often marked by emotional extremes and insecurity?
16. What escalates intimacy?
17. Which style of loving is a comfortable, best-friends kind of love that grows gradually to
create a stable and even-keeled companionship?
True-False Items
18. Most relationships are personal, not social.
19. The value of social relationships lies more in what participants do than in who they are
because a variety of people could fulfill the same functions.
20. Passion must exist between two people for them to remain committed to a relationship.
21. Today, nearly 60% of couples live together before marrying.
22. When people begin to see themselves as friends, social norms and roles become less
important.
23. Opposing and continuous tensions in relationships are called relational dialectics.
24. For ludic lovers, love is a challenge, a puzzle, a game to be relished, but not one to lead to
commitment.
25. Stonewalling is refusing to discuss the issues that are causing tension in a relationship.
26. The development of a relational culture is part of the navigation stage of romantic
relationships.
27. In relationships, we do not need privacy and thus should be open for our partners.
28. As a rule, men assume more psychological responsibility for relationships than women.
29. Compared to face-to-face relationships, online relationships tend to form more rapidly.
30. Not confined to sexual passion, eros may be expressed in spiritual, intellectual, and
emotional ways.
31. Relational dialectics are normal in personal relationships.
32. Since each relationship is unique, there are few commonalities that explain how each
relationship develops.
33. Marital stability is closely linked to equitable divisions of money and material possessions.
34. The term “honeymoon” is used to describe the time in a relationship when a couple begins to
initially commit to each other.
Fill-in-the-Blank Items
35. Patterned ways of behaving and interpreting behavior are known as ____________________.
36. One way partners manage relational tension is ____________________, in which they assign
each need to certain spheres, issues, activities, or times.
37. What we put into a relationship that cannot be retrieved if the relationship ends are called
____________________.
38. The decision to remain in a relationship in spite of troubles, disappointments, sporadic
boredom, and lulls in passion is called ____________________.
39. Contradictory needs or tensions in personal relationships are called ____________________.
40. ____________________ negotiates a compromise in which each dialectical need is met to an
extent but neither is fully satisfied.
41. ____________________ are unique commitments between irreplaceable individuals who are
influenced by rules, relational dialectics, and surrounding contexts.
42. ____________________ is a response to relational dialectics that transcends the apparent
contradictory needs and redefines them as not really in opposition.
43. Equity between partners affects ____________________ with relationships.
44. ____________________ involves remembering, planning, and coordinating domestic
activities.
45. A private world of rules, understandings, meanings, and patterns of interacting that partners
create for their relationship is known as ____________________.
46. The intensely positive feelings that come to mind when we think about romantic intimacy is
called ____________________.
Essay Items
47. Intimate partner violence tends to follow a predictable cycle. Describe this cycle.
48. Researchers have identified six different styles of loving, each of which is valid in its own
right. List and briefly explain four of the six styles.
49. Name and briefly describe the three stages of romantic relationships.