theory. But not liking it and not seeing the validity of its conclusion are not the same. I will
make every effort to help them see the theorist’s position, even if they don’t agree with it.
Only a theory of “new media” relationships?
When it first appeared, SIP was an exciting new approach to the “new media,” a way of
accounting for online communication, particularly as it stacks up against face–to-face
encounters. But, as mentioned in the chatper, could the central ideas developed in this theory
apply just as well to old-fashioned letters, even those sent through the U.S. Postal Service? Is
this simply a theory of single-modal, written communication? In past generations, people did
become engaged to people they’d never met through written correspondence. Their
relationship developed gradually, letter by letter, until they were sufficiently attached to one
Failing to speak: On the hesitation of students to defend SIP
It’s likely that some students in your class have developed an online relationship, either
via e-mail, chat rooms, Facebook, Snapchat or as part of a virtual community. As such, they
are likely to warmly embrace SIP’s perspective about online relationship development and be
vocal advocates that relationship development is not only possible but probable. From my
experience, however, these students are sometimes rather sheepish about their experiences
and will be hesitant to go up against vocal opposition. Their reluctance to be an advocate has
The virtual girlfriend
Your students may be familiar with Asia’s “Virtual girlfriend.” After joining (and paying a
subscription fee), a “girlfriend” appears as an animated message on the subscriber’s mobile
phone video screen. Disclosure comes at a price—literally, as the anime only responds when
she has been bought flowers or gifts by paying more money. The “relationship” develops as
money is exchanged for more information about one’s “girlfriend,” sweet talk, and introduction
to her “friends.” You might want to engage students in a comparison of the differences