Kinicki/Williams, Management, 9e: Chapter 13 Groups and Teams: Increasing Cooperation, Reducing Conflict
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The Three-Step Process of Using Empathy to Influence Behavior
1) Label the emotion: You seem annoyed about…
3) Create a transition sentence: You seem annoyed about your efforts going unnoticed.
What steps can you take to publicize your work?
2. Use the following scenario to practice the three-step approach to empathy. Read the scenario,
and ask students to write an empathetic response.
Practice Scenario
“Why are you giving me such a hard time about being five minutes late for our team meeting?
Give me a break! You know that I have responsibilities at home, and it is hard for me to get here
on time. I’m 40, and I have a wife and two small sons at home. Do you have to deal with sick
kids? Do you have to arrange an emergency babysitter so you can get to class on time? Do you
have to fight traffic to get here after working a full day? You would be much more understanding
if you weren’t just a kid with no responsibility other than going to classes.”
Assume you are the team leader.
Sample answer:
“It seems like you are overwhelmed with all the activities and responsibilities on your plate. I
also sense that you are angry about my pointing out that you were late for our scheduled
meeting.” (These two sentences represent step 1, label the emotion, and step 2, restate the
content.) “Why don’t we all talk about your role on this team and how we can help you to
accomplish your team tasks on a timely basis?” (This is the transition sentence.)
3. Break the class into groups, and distribute the scenarios listed below to each one. Ask each
student to write an empathetic response using the three-step process for each scenario. Once
done, ask students to share and critique each other’s answers.
● Assume you are answering as the teaching assistant and a student enters your office and
● Assume you are a professor, and a student’s phone goes off in class: You have a class
policy that says all cell phones must be turned off. During class today, Maria’s cell phone
● Assume you are answering as an academic advisor: “I am trying so hard and everything I