It is always difficult to predict how a child will respond to different styles of
parenting. The mother in Tillie Olsen’s “I Stand Here Ironing” blames her poverty as a
single mother for the emotional neglect of her child, but the mother in Alice Walker’s
“Everyday Use” is also poor and seems to be on her own as a parent. Both mothers lack a
Despite these differences, both are outsiders. Had Dee been brought up by
unloving surrogates rather than by her mother and had her teachers failed to
recognize her abilities, she may have become more bitter and vindictive, but she may
have been less self-absorbed and demanding. Olsen’s narrator ends by blaming society,
saying that Emily has been “a child of her age, of depression, of war, of fear.” Dee,
growing up a generation later, benefits from her own turbulent age and is shaped by
the civil rights movement and the subsequent black power and black arts movements.
As a gifted African American woman, Dee would have found few avenues for her
talents in the early twentieth century and would have found herself frustrated and
angry, trapped in a society that offered little help for people of color or of the working
class. Ironically, it is her success that separates Dee from her mother, while Emily’s
life has been characterized by failure.
Taken together, the three narratives of this cluster demonstrate three different
responses to a generational conflict in values. Emily seems to have bad luck, suffering
illness that only complicates the division between mother and daughter. After a
lifetime of unintentional rejection, she seems to be coming into her own, choosing
the life that suits her, rejecting the academic world that tries to supply pat answers to
complex issues. Emily, like Dee, could come to reject her mother’s values, but the
story’s ending indicates that perhaps she will not, that her mother approves of Emily’s
independent action and does not want a passive daughter. And Emily’s wry comment
about her mother’s constant ironing hints at an understanding of the reasons her
mother has neglected her and an acceptance that this is just the way her mother is, a
woman constantly working. One could see her comedy, however, as a way of turning
pain into art. Although Dee could be seen as doing something similar by hanging