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Chapter 8: Culture, Communication, and Conflict
Martin, Experiencing Intercultural Communication, 6e
handled. For instance, in one family, every time there was a conflict, a loud shouting match
ensued, and then everybody went to their rooms for a nap. When they all awoke, the family
members acted as if the conflict had never happened. After the students identify the style(s)
of handling conflict to which they were exposed, ask them to reflect on whether this is their
preferred style as adults or whether they have consciously or unconsciously changed their
preferred style. Debrief this exercise by asking students to share their answers, which will
expose the class to various styles. The discussion that follows should be respectful of the
different styles of dealing with conflict that emerge, and you should urge students to think
more about the implications of these styles, rather than dichotomizing them in terms of
right or wrong.
5. Alternative to Identifying One’s Preferred Conflict Style: Have students take one of the
free online conflict inventories that provide printable results: (1) Kraybill’s Conflict
Response Inventory http://mediationchannel.com/2006/08/17/free-review-copies-of–
kraybill-conflict-style-inventory-now-available-to-trainers/; Adult Personal Conflict Style
Inventory: http://www.uuasouthernregion.org/images/ADULT-PERSONAL-CONFLICT-
STYLE-INVENTORY.pdf; Or to receive training in the use of Mitch Hammer’s
Intercultural Conflict Inventory http://www.icsinventory.com/about-us/our-
people/Mitchell-R.-Hammer-Ph.D. Contact the Intercultural Communication Institute,
8835 SW Canyon Lane, Portland, OR 97225, 503-297-4622.
6. Attitudes toward Conflict Exercise: As a first step to understanding and managing conflict,
students need to become aware of their personal feelings toward conflict. In this simple
exercise, ask students to write down the first words that come to mind when they think of
conflict. Then, ask them to share some of their words with the class and write them on the
board. After a few minutes, ask the students to reflect on the words written on the board
and share their thoughts. One of the most powerful observations that comes out of this
exercise is the negative feeling people have about conflict. Another important observation
is that often, the behaviors for managing conflict are negative or destructive, such as
hatred, yelling at someone, or hitting someone. Once students have had an opportunity to
explore their attitudes toward conflict, you can introduce alternate, positive views of
conflict.
7. Dealing with Everyday Conflict: Since the majority of students will confront intercultural
conflict on a small scale, have them identify how the various styles of conflict resolution
might be appropriate in responding to small conflict events, such as those involving
prejudicial statements and actions. Be sure to focus on the ramifications to the relationship
as well as the resolution of the issue at hand for each conflict style. This can be role played,
but it can also make for an excellent class discussion.