7. Do I interrupt often or let people talk as long as they want?
8. Do I show empathy or am I uncomfortable when someone comes to me with a
problem?
9. Do my words tend to lower or raise the other person’s self-esteem?
10. Do I over- or under-use the pronoun “I”?
11. Do I offer supportive remarks, such as “I see” and “Is that so,” or do I listen
silently while others are talking?
12. Do I employ a posture that communicates interest or detachment?
Activity 1-4: What rules, then, can one follow if one is dedicated to the truth?*
This activity is designed to assist students in the process of developing personal and professional
ethics as they become more adept and competent at communicating with individuals with
different cultural backgrounds. Consider the following arbitrary rules of interaction:
• First, never speak a falsehood.
• Second, bear in mind that the act of withholding the truth is always potentially a lie; and
that in each instance in which the truth is withheld, a significant moral decision is
required.
• Third, the decision to withhold the truth should never be based on personal needs, such as
a need for power, a need to be liked, or a need to protect one’s map from challenge.
• Fourth, and conversely, the decision to withhold the truth must always be based entirely
upon the needs of the person or people from whom the truth is being withheld.
• Fifth, the assessment of another’s needs is an act of responsibility, which is so complex
that it can only be executed wisely when one operates with genuine love for the other.
• Six, the primary factor in the assessment of another’s needs is the assessment of that
person’s capacity to utilize the truth for his or her own spiritual growth.
• Finally, in assessing the capacity of another to utilize the truth for spiritual growth, it
should be born in mind that our tendency is generally to underestimate rather than
overestimate this capacity.”
* Adapted from Peck, M. S. (1978). The road less traveled. New York: Simon & Schuster. pp.
62-63.
Activity 1-5: The intercultural file
This activity is designed to assist students in the process of becoming familiar with a culture that
is not their own.
Divide students into small groups of five to seven members at the beginning of the semester.
Assign them to study a culture different than their own through collecting newspaper articles,
magazine articles, and internet searches. Suggest that they choose four or five areas within the
culture to study such as politics, religion, education, family life, art, and/or music. Have them
assemble a file (in a three-inch notebook), to be presented in class at the end of the semester. The