part in a determination of the aggressiveness, passivity, or
assertiveness of the statement. For example, if you are sitting next to
the member issuing the statement,
eyes so tone of voice will become more salient. Someone sitting
directly across from the member making the statement, however, may
find eye contact more salient than tone of voice.
2. Assertiveness is mostly nonverbal
be inherently commands, thus
aggressive. Yet this exercise clearly demonstrates that the verbal
through tone of voice, lack of eye contact, soft-spokenness, and so
forth. Thus, what you say is often not as important as how you say
ng to be assertive.
3. The multiple nonverbal cues that together comprise assertiveness,
aggressiveness, or passivity should be discussed. The
list might be distributed after the exercise
has been completed but before discussion takes place.
ELEMENTS OF ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION
NONVERBAL ELEMENTS
Eye Contact
Inadequate eye contact is usually interpreted as exhibiting
anxiety, dishonesty, shame, boredom, or
embarrassment. Direct eye contact typically communicates
self-confidence and directness (assertiveness).
Facial Expressions
Facial expressions should match verbal statements. Smiling while displeased or
smirking when anxious gives a mixed message. Frowning may communicate
aggressiveness.
Gestures/Posture
Fidgeting, nervous shifting from one foot to another, slumped shoulders, or bent over
posture often communicate passivity. Similarly, frantic gesturing, energetic stabbing
motions with the hand, clenched fists and wild waving of the arms may be
interpreted as aggressiveness. Strive fo
appearing to have consumed five cafe espressos. Poise is interpreted as assertiveness.
Poise means you are under control physically.