caught her e-mailing my colleague about my salary and career prospects! What should I do about
her poor leadership?—Phil
Dear Phil,
Nobody likes an oversharer! Perhaps your boss isn’t aware of the impact of her behavior and
thinks she is just being friendly. Assuming this is the case, you might be able to make her think
first before sharing. If you’re comfortable addressing her, you may suggest a private meeting to
discuss your concerns. You should bring a list of the types of information she solicits and shares
—with an example or two—and, if she’s open to discussion, problem-solve with her about her
habit. She may see that her “open book” approach is undermining her leadership effectiveness.
Another tactic might start with your researching the best privacy practices, laws, and business
guidelines. Be sure to source your organization’s HR handbook for any mentions of privacy
expectations. Then in your meeting you could present your research findings. With both direct
approaches, you run the risk of offending your boss, which may very well happen if she becomes
embarrassed. Moreover, she may defend her behavior if her oversharing is actually strategic
gossip and not see the problem, which could have ramifications for what she then thinks and says
about you!
These approaches still might be worth trying, but from what you’ve said about her, it’s highly
unlikely she will change her general behavior. Research indicates that her personal tendencies
will prevail over time. It sounds like she is extraverted, for instance—you’re not going to change
that. She may be clever and manipulative, purposefully leveraging her information for personal
gain without a concern for others (high-Machiavellian or narcissistic). In that case self-awareness
can help, but her behavior won’t change unless she is willing to practice self-regulation.
Perhaps most importantly, it doesn’t seem that you like your boss. This may be a real problem
that you cannot surmount. How are you going to build a relationship of trust with her, trust that
will be needed for you to continue to feel motivated and work hard? Unfortunately, if you cannot
thrive in this environment, it may be best to move on.
Good luck for your best possible outcome!
Sources: A. E. Colbert, M. R. Barrick, and B. H. Bradley, “Personality and Leadership Composition in Top Management Teams: Implications
for Organizational Effectiveness,” Personnel Psychology 67 (2014): 351–387; R. B. Kaiser, J. M. LeBreton, and J. Hogan, “The Dark Side of
Personality and Extreme Leader Behavior,” Applied Psychology: An International Review 64, no. 1 (2015): 55–92; and R. Walker, “A Boss Who
Shares Too Much,” The New York Times, December 28, 2014, 7.
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