Make eye contact.
Exhibit affirmative nods and appropriate facial expressions.
Avoid distracting actions or gestures that suggest boredom.
Ask questions.
Paraphrase using your own words.
Avoid interrupting the speaker.
Don’t over talk.
Make smooth transitions between the roles of speaker and listener.
Practicing the Skill
This exercise is a good way to have students put the Skill Basics mentioned above into
practice. Have students break into groups of two and debate a topic. After the topic is
chosen, person B must select an opposite position. The debate should last around 8-10
minutes with a catch, before each person speaks, he or she must summarize the position
of the other person.
The more you can get students involved in the debate the better. Additional topics for
debate can include: Light Beer versus Regular Beer, Football versus Soccer, Lady Gaga
versus Toby Keith, Chuck Norris versus Bruce Lee. These topics are also novel and
students may find it easier to remember the content of the debate. After the exercise is
over, go over the barriers to communication (p. 334) and see if they were an issue during
the debate.
As an alternative to all students participating in the debate, the exercise could be
performed with several two-person groups in front of the class. During the debates,
students not participating would take the role of an observer and make a note of how well
each person used the eight active listening skills from the Skill Basics above.
Experiential Exercise
Stone, Hartwick, and Mueller Talent Management Associates
To: Chris Richards
From: Dana Gibson
Subject: Office gossip
There are some big changes at Stone, Hartwick, and Mueller, and the information on a move has
been kept “under wraps” for competitive reasons. However, employees are starting to suspect
something is up. Your job is to create a plan to deal with inaccurate information that can affect
morale and productivity.
Teaching Tip: There is no right or wrong answer in how to deal with this situation.
There are good reasons for not letting competitors know information that could hurt the
company. However, information like this is bound to get out and when it does, it would
be best if the information is accurate. Have students brainstorm several ways that the
company could share the information with employees but at the same time stay
competitive. Hint: Have students think about ways to put a spin on the move so that
employees and customers could see the move as something positive.