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▪ Focus on issues, not personalities
▪ Separate facts from feelings
▪ Search for areas where concessions on important topics can be obtained, while
making matching concessions in areas of lesser interest
• Trust-Building
o The absence of trust increases the chance of conflict.
o Trust, the capacity to depend voluntarily on each other’s words and actions, implies a
willingness to take interpersonal risks and to be vulnerable.
o Trust is an essential ingredient in enduring relations between two or more people
working together.
o Trust toward another person can be expressed by showing respect, exhibiting sincere
caring and concern, by being honest and true to one’s word, and by demonstrating
dependability and reliability.
o By contrast, trust can be rapidly dissolved by:
▪ Telling half-truths and lies,
▪ Showing inconsistencies between promises and actions
▪ Threatening the goal achievement or self-image of others
▪ Withholding needed information from others
o The benefits of trust are manifold.
▪ Its presence encourages risk-taking, facilitates free flows of information, and
contributes to cooperative relationships.
▪ It eliminates much of the perceived need to monitor someone else’s behavior in a
tightly controlling way.
▪ Overall, trust leads to a more satisfying relationship with others—supervisors, co-
workers, and subordinates.
Assertive Behavior
• Confronting conflict is not easy for some people.
o Some managers may feel inferior, lack necessary skills, or be awed by the other person’s
power.
▪ Under these conditions, they are likely to suppress their feelings or strike out in
unintended anger. Neither response is productive.
• A constructive alternative to confronting conflict is to practice assertive behaviors.
o Assertiveness is the process of expressing feelings, asking for legitimate changes, giving
and receiving honest feedback.
• An assertive individual is not afraid to request another person to change an offensive behavior
and is willing to refuse unreasonable requests from someone else.
o Assertiveness training involves teaching people to develop effective ways of dealing
with a variety of anxiety-producing situations.