should paraphrase the comments of the person who just spoke, before he or she is allowed to
make any new comments.
1. People under nineteen should not be allowed to get married.
2. Tirades should be eliminated in college evaluations.
3. All students should be required to take a speech course to graduate.
Class Discussion
After all of the groups have reached their decisions, the class should discuss the listening
behavior within the groups that indicated active listening and empathic understanding.
Usually, the students identify body position and posture, eye contact, paraphrasing, asking
probing questions, and words or gestures of affirmation—for example, head nodding or
saying “I see.” The discussion should relate behavior indicating empathy to the factors that
can create barriers to communication. The students should realize that empathy reduces the
barriers to effective listening. They should also discuss their feelings during the discussion
and the effect of empathic behavior on communication within the group.
Applications
This activity is similar to activity 3.5, “Paraphrasing.” The focus here, however, is on the
effect of empathy on communication, rather than on the nature of language. Empathy is also
important in the small-group discussion.
Activity 5.2 Communicating Feelings
Objectives
Students should be able to determine how emotions are communicated; develop the ability to
identify the emotional tone of a message; and demonstrate an ability to empathically listen to
others.
Procedure
Read the following statements to the class and ask students to identify the feeling expressed
by the content of the message:
1. I shouldn’t have failed the test! I studied all night for it! (amazement, shock)
2. Why did we start playing this game? It’s taking much longer to finish than I thought it
would. (boredom)
3. The candy is delicious. It was so nice of you to bring it. (pleased)
4. I can’t talk to my advisor alone. Will you go with me? (afraid)
5. Ever since my roommate got a new car, all he or she has been doing is going out!
(jealousy)
6. Don’t come near me. You don’t care about anyone but yourself. (hurt)
7. That jerk just ran a stoplight. (anger)
8. I’m sorry about what I said about your friend. I shouldn’t have said anything. (guilt)