4. Ask your students about the experience: How did they feel after the moment of silence
became quite lengthy? At what point did they feel a need to say something to someone?
At what point did they begin checking the reactions of their neighbors? What motivated
them to do this?
5. Let students discuss why they felt the need to interact verbally.
1.5 SKILL BUILDER: Effective Communicators
It can be helpful for students to consider effective communicators they have met.
1. Have each student think of a man and a woman whom he or she knows personally and
would describe as an effective communicator.
2. Either in writing or in a presentation to the class, the student should describe each
person’s effective communication techniques, and give specific examples of what that
person does to be perceived as an effective communicator. What elements of the
communicator’s techniques would the student like to incorporate into his or her own
communication repertoire? Why?
1.6 SKILL BUILDER: Receiver-Source-Receiver-Source
Choose a partner and role-play one of the following situations: a quarrel between lovers,
a conversation between two strangers waiting for a bus during a storm, a controversy between a
teacher and a student over a grade, a discussion between friends about the rising cost of tuition.
After enacting your scene, explain how what one person did and said influenced what the
other person did and said.
1.7 SKILL BUILDER: Can You Send an Un-Message?
1. Describe a situation in which you tried to avoid communicating with someone. In your
description, identify the person with whom you did not want to communicate, give your
reasons, describe the strategies you used to try to avoid communicating, and describe the
results of your efforts.
2. Describe a situation in which someone tried to avoid communicating with you. Again,
identify the person involved, give your perception of his or her reasons for not wanting to
relate to you, describe the strategies the person used to try to avoid communicating, and
describe the results.
1.8 SKILL BUILDER: Confirm, Reject, Disconfirm
1. Working with a partner, improvise three scenes. In Scene A, one person confirms another
person’s self-image. In Scene B, one person rejects the other person’s self- image. In
Scene C, one person disconfirms the other person’s self-image. Note the verbal and
nonverbal behaviors that are involved in confirming, rejecting, or disconfirming the
person.
2. Describe the communication experiences in which you were just confirmed, rejected and
disconfirmed by another person. How did you respond in each case?
3. Describe communication experiences from your life in which you confirmed, rejected,
and disconfirmed another person. How did the other person respond in each situation?