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1. Women are more likely to cheat on romantic partners than men.
a.
True
b.
False
2. Gael and Michelle have been dating for six months. They have disclosed a great deal of personal information
to each other, and they even use pet names to refer to each other. What stage are they at in their relationship?
a.
circumscribing
b.
experimenting
c.
bonding
d.
intensifying
3. Which of these tensions is NOT commonly found in romantic relationships?
a.
novelty versus predictability
b.
openness versus protection
c.
autonomy versus connection
d.
detachment versus empathy
4. Women report more stress if their romantic partner forms an outside emotional attachment, while men report
more stress if their partner has passionate sex with another person.
a.
True
b.
False
5. Long-distance relationships are always less satisfying or stable than local relationships.
a.
True
b.
False
6. Which of these behaviors would NOT be considered an example of positivity?
a.
making sure your partner’s family likes you
b.
making interactions enjoyable
c.
paying compliments to your partner
d.
trying to be romantic
7. If Pascal perceives he is receiving fewer rewards than he gives to his romantic partner, he is likely to
experience:
a.
guilt.
b.
sadness or anger.
c.
equity.
d.
relational satisfaction and stability.
8. Don feels the need for spontaneity in his relationship with Megan, but he also wants the comfort of a regular
routine. What dialectic does this illustrate?
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connection versus autonomy
b.
openness versus protection
c.
novelty versus predictability
d.
stability versus change
9. Perpetrators of relational intrusion perceive their own behaviors as:
a.
harmful.
b.
minimal.
c.
betrayal.
d.
positive.
10. If you perceive that costs and rewards are balanced between you and your partner, you are more likely to be
happy in your relationship.
a.
True
b.
False
11. The novelty-versus-predictability tension deals with how much of ourselves we choose to share with our
partners.
a.
True
b.
False
12. If two people who have been dating for four years decide to get married, what relational stage have they
reached?
a.
circumscribing
b.
experimenting
c.
integrating
d.
bonding
13. If Aaron longs to be with his partner, who is away on a summer internship, he is lamenting loss of the caring
component of love.
a.
True
b.
False
14. According to social exchange theory, relational attraction can be described by all of these factors EXCEPT:
a.
benefits.
b.
costs.
c.
equity.
d.
uncertainty.
15. According to research into sexual infidelity, partners are more forgiving of a transgressor if a sexual
dalliance was unplanned.
a.
True
b.
False
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16. What percentage of couples in the United States who marry end up divorcing?
a.
33 percent
b.
40 percent
c.
60 percent
d.
75 percent
17. Alexander noticed Lai in his introductory speech communication class. He found her intelligent, based upon
her contributions to class discussion, and physically attractive. He has introduced himself to her and is
considering his next move. What stage of relationship development are they in?
a.
circumscribing
b.
initiating
c.
integrating
d.
intensifying
18. If two partners disagree about the nature of their relationship, they do not have a romantic relationship.
a.
True
b.
False
19. According to social exchange theory, inequity results when:
a.
your partner is too similar to you.
b.
your partner is too different from you.
c.
there is a balance of rewards and costs.
d.
your partner provides fewer benefits than you do.
20. Judah tends to date only women he perceives to be much better-looking than himself; therefore, Judah is
demonstrating the matching concept of attraction.
a.
True
b.
False
21. Online communication helps with every component of the attraction process except proximity.
a.
True
b.
False
22. According to the mere exposure effect:
a.
decreased contact leads to increased attraction.
b.
greater exposure leads to greater attraction.
c.
greater exposure leads to decreased attraction.
d.
equity must be achieved to increase attraction.
23. Which of these is a strategy for defusing jealousy in a romantic relationship?
a.
relying on oneself
b.
acknowledging jealousy
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c.
avoiding communication until you have cooled off
d.
All of the options are correct.
24. If you find yourself in a relationship with a violent partner, you should:
a.
use a relationship repair strategy.
b.
provide emotional support.
c.
extricate yourself from the relationship.
d.
identify the optimal outcome.
25. People who engage in relational intrusion perceive and understand their behavior as negative.
a.
True
b.
False
26. Relational intrusion happens in all cultures; however, it is more likely to be perpetrated by women than by
men.
a.
True
b.
False
27. According to research findings regarding sexual infidelity, most relational partners are unconcerned if their
husband or wife only kissed someone else.
a.
True
b.
False
28. If Aria and Tarek travel to Massachusetts to obtain a license that allows same-sex couples to wed, they are
in the bonding stage of relationship development.
a.
True
b.
False
29. According to the textbook, women seem to experience pragma love more than men.
a.
True
b.
False
30. According to your text, passionate love is negatively related to relationship duration.
a.
True
b.
False
31. Which of these are defining elements of a romantic relationship?
a.
perception and choice
b.
equity and communication
c.
diversity and equity
d.
perception and exposure
32. Loving:
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a.
is more intense than liking.
b.
requires intimacy.
c.
includes attachment.
d.
All of the options are correct.
33. Men seem to possess more “starry-eyed” perceptions of love than women.
a.
True
b.
False
34. Wedging occurs on social networking sites when a person deliberately uses messages, photos, and posts to
place himself or herself between partners in a romantic couple.
a.
True
b.
False
35. Romantic partners are happiest when:
a.
they get more than they give.
b.
they give more than they get.
c.
there is a balance of giving and getting.
d.
inequity is present.
36. According to social exchange theory, we are more attracted to people whom we perceive as offering us
benefits with few costs.
a.
True
b.
False
37. Which of these statements about attraction is NOT true?
a.
Perceived similarity of attractiveness is not the same as actual similarity.
b.
We tend to underestimate our own physical attractiveness.
c.
We tend to avoid people we view as less attractive than ourselves.
d.
You have to like a quality you possess to find it attractive in others.
38. The most destructive form of romantic betrayal is sexual infidelity.
a.
True
b.
False
39. The clash between Chris’s desire to be open with Karen and Chris’s desire to keep some things private
illustrates which dialectical tension in their relationship?
a.
connection versus autonomy
b.
openness versus protection
c.
novelty versus predictability
d.
stability versus change
40. Carolyn and Eric have gone out a couple of times. Their conversation is composed primarily of small talk,
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through which they learn about each other’s similarities. Which stage best characterizes their relationship?
a.
circumscribing
b.
integrating
c.
experimenting
d.
intensifying
41. Which of these best describes the “pragma” style of love?
a.
friendly love that is stable and predictable
b.
practical love that is logical and rational
c.
forgiving love that is patient and selfless
d.
romantic love that is sentimental and idealistic
42. We tend to be attracted to those who are not attracted to us.
a.
True
b.
False
43. The higher divorce rate for interethnic couples is largely attributable to:
a.
inequity.
b.
cultural disapproval.
c.
dissimilarity in cultural values.
d.
the birds-of-a-feather effect.
44. Which dialectical tension is illustrated by our simultaneous desires to bond with others and to retain
independence?
a.
autonomy versus connection
b.
openness versus protection
c.
novelty versus predictability
d.
stability versus change
45. Which of these factors is NOT an important predictor of relational stability and longevity?
a.
degree to which the partners are “in love”
b.
equity
c.
frequency of intimacy
d.
shared values
46. When the beautiful-is-good effect occurs, we tend to perceive others as:
a.
physically appealing.
b.
competent communicators.
c.
intelligent.
d.
All of the options are correct.
47. Which cause of attraction suggests that Odin and Tina will become romantically attracted to one another
simply because they see each other regularly in the gym where they both work out?
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a.
proximity
b.
similarity
c.
reciprocal liking
d.
physical attractiveness
48. Which of these statements is NOT true of sexual infidelity?
a.
The majority of people would consider divorce if their partner had a sexual affair.
b.
Women find emotional infidelity more distressing than sexual infidelity.
c.
Both men and women view emotional infidelity in the same way as sexual infidelity.
d.
Men find sexual infidelity more distressing than emotional infidelity.
49. Assuming the beautiful-is-good effect is operating, we are likely to see those who are physically attractive
as more competent communicators.
a.
True
b.
False
50. Passionate love is a type of love that is specific to Western culture.
a.
True
b.
False
51. The effect of proximity reduces the likelihood of mixed-race romantic relationships in the United States,
since Americans tend to cluster in ethnically homogenous groups.
a.
True
b.
False
52. Once long-distance couples are reunited, relational satisfaction increases while conflict decreases.
a.
True
b.
False
53. According to the textbook, you can like someone without loving him or her, and love someone without
liking him or her.
a.
True
b.
False
54. The two most important maintenance strategies in a long-distance romance are:
a.
discussing future plans and dreams.
b.
positivity and assurances.
c.
discussing conflict and disappointments.
d.
text and instant messaging.
55. When we maintain a relationship with someone we perceive as similar to ourselves, we:
a.
are more likely to suffer boredom.
b.
view predictability as a cost.
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are likely to stay together longer.
d.
tend to overestimate that similarity.
56. Which of these is a cause of tension among people using online dating sites?
a.
posting misleading or false information about physical appearance
b.
posting misleading or false information about marital status
c.
posting misleading or false information about age
d.
All of the options are correct.
57. Which answer is NOT a sign of an abusive partner?
a.
uses emotionally abusive language
b.
shifts the blame to you
c.
isolates you from others
d.
engages in intrusive behaviors
58. Which of these statements is NOT true of gender differences in love?
a.
Women and men experience passionate love similarly.
b.
Women score higher than men on pragma love.
c.
There is no difference between women’s and men’s experience of pragma love.
d.
Men tend to believe that “there is only one true love for each person.”
59. John and Abigail initially dislike one another. According to the mere exposure effect, they likely will find
each other more attractive as they spend more time together.
a.
True
b.
False
60. The decision to maintain a struggling relationship belongs to:
a.
a relationship expert.
b.
friends.
c.
family.
d.
the romantic couple.
61. Which of these is NOT a form of relational dialectics?
a.
openness versus protection
b.
monogamy versus openness
c.
autonomy versus connection
d.
novelty versus predictability
62. Liking is composed of feelings of affection and respect.
a.
True
b.
False
63. Loving is based upon intimacy, caring, and attachment.
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True
b.
False
64. Which of these statements is NOT true about romantic betrayal?
a.
Betrayal can include sexual infidelity.
b.
Betrayal can include emotional infidelity.
c.
Betrayal can include deception.
d.
Betrayal can be unintentional.
65. Reciprocal liking suggests that attraction decreases when we perceive that someone is attracted to us.
a.
True
b.
False
66. Small talk is the trivial exchange of unimportant information that wastes a potential partner’s time.
a.
True
b.
False
67. Which of these factors is more important for initial attraction than for relational maintenance?
a.
physical attractiveness
b.
similarity
c.
complementary values
d.
intelligence
68. According to your text, the birds-of-a-feather effect suggests that a primary source of attraction is perceived
similarity to others.
a.
True
b.
False
69. If two people who have been dating a while start referring to each other as “sweet pea,” they are probably in
the intensifying stage of relationship development.
a.
True
b.
False
70. If your 8-year-old brother tells you he is in love with his teacher, you should treat his disclosure with respect
and empathy because:
a.
love is driven by the idealization of partners.
b.
neither gender nor age affects how we experience passionate love.
c.
love is negatively related to relationship duration.
d.
love is experienced by all cultures.
71. Which of these statements does NOT describe a characteristic of passionate love?
a.
It is driven by idealization of the partner.
b.
Neither gender nor age changes its experience.
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It is positively related to relationship duration.
d.
It is experienced by all cultures.
72. Henry and Josette have been married for ten years. Their marriage has reached the point where they both
feel like they are “going through the motions,” and they use communication only when needed to maintain their
household. What stage of relational coming apart are they experiencing?
a.
circumscribing
b.
stagnating
c.
avoiding
d.
terminating
73. Relational intrusion can include:
a.
monitoring and controlling.
b.
bonding.
c.
betrayal.
d.
inequity.
74. Gay and lesbian couples experience falling in love, passion, and commitment differently than do straight
couples.
a.
True
b.
False
75. Carl has been spending long nights at the office working with a coworker while his spouse is away on
business. He’s finding himself increasingly attracted to his coworker. Which of these could explain his
attraction?
a.
equity
b.
matching
c.
birds-of-a-feather effect
d.
mere exposure effect
76. What is the most difficult maintenance challenge long-distance couples face?
a.
the reunion
b.
strong desire to be near each other again
c.
complications
d.
anticipation
77. Sarah and Heather have been dating for almost two years. They have an intimate physical relationship and
visit each other’s parents on holidays. Recently, they bought a car and signed a lease on a new apartment
together. This couple is in what stage?
a.
circumscribing
b.
integrating
c.
bonding
d.
intensifying
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78. Which of these statements is true of companionate love?
a.
The longer you are with your partner, the less you feel it.
b.
It is less desirable than passionate love.
c.
It is an intense form of liking with emotional investment.
d.
It is not characteristic of long-term relationships.
79. Which of these steps is included in Mark Knapp’s stages of coming apart?
a.
circumscribing
b.
experimenting
c.
integrating
d.
bonding
80. What facet of attraction suggests that people will be drawn to others and will establish relationships with
others if they believe the benefits and costs balance each other?
a.
uncertainty reduction
b.
equity
c.
social exchange
d.
matching
81. Relationships are most likely to survive sexual infidelity, and cheaters are most likely to be forgiven by their
partner, when:
a.
the cheater is discovered.
b.
jealousy is acknowledged.
c.
they confess their betrayals without being asked.
d.
they discuss the reason for betrayal.
82. What is the most frequently reported relational maintenance strategy?
a.
openness
b.
positivity
c.
sharing activities
d.
sharing tasks
83. When matching occurs, we tend to:
a.
desire those who are more attractive than us.
b.
desire those are who less attractive than us.
c.
desire those who are similar to us in physical attractiveness.
d.
desire those who complement us.
84. Roberta’s partner, Faith, has just moved out of the country; however, Roberta wants to maintain their
relationship. Roberta regularly e-mails and sends instant messages to Faith, indicating that she wants this
relationship to continue despite the physical distance between them. What relational maintenance strategy is
Roberta using?
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positivity
b.
openness
c.
assurances
d.
sharing tasks
85. The competing impulses, or tensions, between ourselves and our feelings toward others are known as
relational dialectics.
a.
True
b.
False
86. Loving is merely an intense form of liking.
a.
True
b.
False
Enter the appropriate word(s) to complete the statement.
87. The concept stipulating that we tend to be attracted to those we perceive as similar to ourselves is known as
the _______.
88. The _______ suggests that we assess relational attraction by weighing perceived costs and benefits.
89. The final relationship stage, during which partners bring closure to the relationship, is the _______ stage.
90. A state of intense emotional and physical longing for union with another is _______.
91. The _______ relationship stage is that in which partners ignore relationship problems and spend less time
together.
92. _______ is intense emotional commitment that consists of intimacy, caring, and attachment.
93. One may experience _______ when one has a protective reaction to a perceived threat to a valued
relationship.
94. The act of _______ goes against expectations of a relationship and causes pain to a partner.
95. The tendency to form long-term romantic relationships with people we perceive to be similar to us in
physical attractiveness is called _______.
96. _______ is an intense form of liking defined by emotional investment and intertwined lives.
97. A strong psychological attachment or _______ to a partner involves an intention to continue the relationship
long into the future.
98. _______ is the mutual attraction between two people.
99. Partners formalize or make public their commitment to one another during the _______ relationship stage.
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100. The feeling of _______ is the feeling of affection and respect we have for our friends.
101. Competing tensions or impulses experienced in our relationships with others are called _______.
102. The depth of personal disclosure increases during the _______ relationship stage.
103. Efforts toward _______ are designed to keep one’s relationship at a desired status or level.
104. Through the use of _______, one deliberately uses messages to “wedge” oneself between romantic
partners.
105. _______ is experienced in the initial stage of coming apart, during which differences between partners
dominate their thoughts and communication.
106. A relationship enters the _______ stage when communication seems pointless.
107. The relationship stage of _______ is that in which two people exchange demographic information with one
another.
108. The first relationship stage, _______, is when we assess whether we find someone attractive.
109. The concept of the _______ stipulates that we are attracted to those we perceive as physically attractive
because we also perceive them as well-adjusted, competent communicators.
110. The relationship stage of _______ occurs when partners physically distance themselves from each other.
111. The _______ stipulates that we are more attracted to those we see frequently than those we see less often.
112. Partners begin to mesh their identities during the _______ relationship stage.
113. The violation of one’s independence and privacy by a person who desires an intimate relationship is known
as _______.
114. _______ is the perceived balance of benefits and costs in a relationship.
115. A _______ is a type of chosen interpersonal relationship forged through communication.
116. Describe the relationship between companionate love and romantic love.
117. Briefly explain the differences between how men and women view sexual infidelity.
118. What are three strategies that can be used to help maintain long-distance relationships?
119. Why is similarity considered a primary source of attraction?
120. How does the mere exposure effect explain the importance of proximity to attraction?
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121. What are the six key elements of a romantic relationship?
122. Identify four factors that help determine whether a relationship will stay together.
123. What is the impact of social networks on relational maintenance?
124. Define jealousy and the emotions constituting jealousy.
125. What intense reactions does betrayal evoke in romantic partners?
126. Identify and briefly describe the five stages of coming apart.
127. Identify the five common warning signs of an abusive partner.
128. Identify three strategies for reducing jealousy.
129. Explain three relational dialectics.
130. Explain the gender difference in “pragma” or practical love.
131. Identify three of the six characteristics of passionate love.
132. Identify and briefly describe the five stages of coming together.
133. What are some strategies for fostering supportive social networks?
134. Define small talk and explain its role in developing relationships.
135. Identify and describe the six forms of romantic love.
136. Identify factors that increase romantic attraction.
137. Describe and provide examples of the seven maintenance strategies identified in your textbook.
138. Why are the warning signs of dating violence difficult to predict?
139. Identify the five common warning signs of an abusive partner.
140. What is relational intrusion? Name the two forms it takes.
141. Describe the most likely outcome of betrayal when romantic couples remain together.
142. Define social exchange theory.
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