39. According to your text, when it comes to self-monitoring, men who are high self-monitors
rank the characteristic of physical attractiveness as
a. less important.
b. more important.
c. equally important.
d. unimportant.
40. In addition to physical attractiveness, _________, or the degree to which we are like
someone, is related to attraction.
a. similarity
b. dissimilarity
c. opposites attract
d. mere exposure
41. Sam and Michael are similar in that they have comparable values concerning education and
family. This is an example of ___________ similarity.
a. demographic
b. attitude
c. personality
d. lifetime
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42. One theory on why attitude similarity predicts relationship satisfaction involves the idea that
dating someone with similar beliefs __________our own perspective.
a. changes
b. devalues
c. personalizes
d. validates
43. Personality traits have a consistent impact on relationship satisfaction and this relationship is
a. strong.
b. moderate.
c. weak.
d. nonexistent.
44. Rather than attitude similarity leading to marriage, it could be that
a. attitudes have become more similar by the time partners have decided to get married.
b. attitudes have become more dissimilar.
c. perceptions of similarity may be less than actual similarity.
d. influences from others make partners more similar.
45. Since you can control the pace of dating in Internet dating, people may perceive their mates
to be more attractive because
a. of mere exposure.
b. of dishonesty.
c. of the virtual environment.
d. they love them.
46. Sammy has corresponded for six months with Maddie, a woman he met online and is
planning to meet. According to Levine (2000), what is the likely outcome?
a. They will live happily ever after.
b. Since they have corresponded longer than a month without meeting, they may deal with
unrealistic expectations.
c. They will never meet.
d. One or both will move on to other partners.
47. __________ love is characterized by intense arousal and absorption with a partner.
a. Intimate
b. Companionate
c. Manic
d. Passionate
48. Passionate love is fueled by ___________ and cognitive factors.
a. physiological
b. evaluative
c. charismatic
d. storge
49. Theresa describes her love for her husband as intensely arousing and overwhelming.
According to Hendrick (2004), this is characteristic of _______ love.
a. passionate
b. manic
c. companionate
d. intimate
50. Harriet reports feeling giddy whenever she thinks about her boyfriend. The giddiness is
related to neurochemicals such as _______ and ________, which stimulates us and promotes
feelings of attraction.
a. estrogen; testosterone
b. dopamine; estrogen
c. PEA (phenylethylmine); testosterone
d. dopamine; PEA (phenylethylmine)
51. From a physiological perspective, the decline in passionate love characteristic of many
relationships has been attributed to
a. troubles in the relationship.
b. the need of greater neurochemicals to have the same feelings and the inability to create
the increasing amounts.
c. the decrease in time available to spend with one’s partner.
d. the increase in time together and decrease in fantasy-based perceptions.
52. Jared hasn’t felt the same about Stacy for some time. He commented to his brother, “I
remember when the hair on my neck stood up when she entered a room, and I wouldn’t stop
thinking about her. I guess I just don’t love her anymore.” Based on his statement, we can
infer that Jared defines love as _________-based.
a. companionate
b. passion
c. friendship
d. communication
53. __________ love is based on trust, mutual respect, affection, and friendship.
a. Passionate
b. Companionate
c. Manic
d. Pragmatic
54. __________ love may get us into long-term relationships, but _________ love sustains
them.
a. Passionate; companionate
b. Companionate; manic
c. Ludus; eros
d. Pragmatic; storge
55. Earlier research on passionate love suggested that passionate love shifted to companionate
love. Newer research by Tucker and Aron (1993) found
a. similar findings to previous results.
b. that companionate love continued throughout the relationship, although it did have ups
and downs.
c. that passionate love continued throughout the relationship, although it did have ups and
downs.
d. that few couples reported passion for their mates over the long term.
56. Individuals in long-term relationships note that expressed affection and frequency of sex
decline rapidly after the first year or two of marriage. How do they respond?
a. With frustration and guilt
b. With understanding and acceptance as companionate love increases
c. With resentment
d. With understanding and acceptance as companionate love decreases
57. One way to decrease the decline of chemicals associated with emotional intensity is to
a. love more.
b. expose self and partner to new situations.
c. maintain familiarity and comfort in relationships.
d. break up with partner.
58. According to Baumeister & Bratslavsy (1999), change in emotion rather than the emotion
itself
a. interrupts the success of a relationship.
b. causes a breakup.
c. maintains familiarity and comfort in relationships.
d. fosters greater emotional connection between partners.
59. Audrey and Jackson both think their relationship is in a rut and decide to take up a new
hobby together: hiking. According to Baumeister & Bratslavsy (1999), this new adventure
should correlate with
a. increased relationship satisfaction.
b. decreased relationship satisfaction.
c. aspects of individual happiness.
d. increased fighting.
60. In general, couples giving birth in a hospital show _________ intimacy after the event.
a. increased
b. decreased
c. maintained
d. a decrease, then an increase in
61. According to a study by Moran (1992), couples giving birth at home show _________
intimacy after the event.
a. increased
b. decreased
c. maintained
d. a decrease then an increase in
62. According to Hiller (2004) and Uvnas-Moberg (1998), the hormone _______ is released in
both men and women during sex, and it __________ pair bonding.
a. testosterone; decreases
b. estrogen; maintains
c. oxytocin; maintains
d. oxytocin; increases
63. At the center of Gottman’s principles for relationship success is the need to _______ in your
relationship.
a. have control
b. introduce novelty
c. understand intentions
d. create and nurture intimacy
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64. According to Gottman, having trust in our relationships often leads us to
a. demand more quality time.
b. take our partner for granted.
c. behave inappropriately with others.
d. interruptions in communication.
65. _________ are the perceptions of our partner’s likes, dislikes, hopes, and dreams. It is
created out of a deep and broad awareness of that partner.
a. Love letters
b. Positive attributions
c. Love maps
d. Negative attributions
66. For couples who have detailed love maps, the birth of their first child
a. maintains their existing relationship satisfaction.
b. increases their existing relationship satisfaction.
c. decreases their existing relationship satisfaction.
d. contributed to divorce.
67. Justin is frustrated by the latest fight with his girlfriend, Meghan. However, he attributes the
fight to her stress at work and as normal in a relationship. This is an example of a
a. love map.
b. negative attribution.
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c. positive attribution.
d. misattribution.
68. Positive attributions are beneficial to relationships because they
a. allow us to ignore negative feelings.
b. build and maintain supportive climates.
c. cause us to take our partners for granted.
d. increase defensiveness.
69. According to Gottman, we create a(n) ___________ by making small, everyday sacrifices
and by making efforts to notice and appreciate the kindnesses of our partner.
a. tit-for-tat strategy
b. reciprocal strategy
c. plus system
d. emotional bank account
70. According to Gottman’s work, anger in relationships is often escalated by
a. men more than women.
b. women more than men.
c. men and women equally.
d. outside sources.
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71. Emma was angry her roommate had forgotten to put the milk away. She shouted, “Don’t
you ever do anything right?” Which of Gottman’s horsemen does this interaction represent?
a. Criticism
b. Contempt
c. Defensiveness
d. Stonewalling
72. Darla was moving some furniture, and in the process, her dog, Sammy, ran out the front
door. Rather than accepting responsibility for leaving the door open, she yelled at her
husband for not closing the door. According to Gottman, this is an example of which
horseman of conflict?
a. Criticism
b. Contempt
c. Defensiveness
d. Stonewalling
73. Whenever Jayden brings up a heated issue she would like to resolve, her partner, Neil,
refuses to respond or leaves the room. This is an example of ____________, one of
Gottman’s four horseman related to conflict.
a. criticism
b. contempt
c. defensiveness
d. stonewalling
74. One successful way to begin a conflict discussion involves the use of I-language. According
to Gottman, this is called
a. a soft startup.
b. a repair attempt.
c. self-soothing.
d. finding common groups.
75. Apologizing during an argument is an example of
a. a soft startup.
b. a repair attempt.
c. self-soothing.
d. finding common groups.