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1. __________ is feeling that your benefits match your contributions.
A) Mutual control
B) Instability
C) Imbalance
D) Commitment
2. Liking grows out of __________.
A) trust and honesty
B) affection and respect
C) commitment and stability
D) reliability and thoughtfulness
3. Which category of prosocial choices involves being cheerful and hopeful?
A) Sharing activities
B) Positivity
C) Openness
D) Assurances
4. __________ is the category of prosocial choices that refers to encouraging, comforting,
and meeting needs.
A) Openness
B) Positivity
C) Social networks
D) Sharing tasks
5. Partners who link their happiness to being positive report that the TOP TWO behaviors
they use to maintain their relationships are __________.
A) positivity and assurances
B) positivity and openness
C) openness and assurances
D) positivity and sharing tasks
6. Asking your romantic partner if he or she needs help is a form of __________.
A) social network
B) assurance
C) openness
D) sharing tasks
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7. __________ is/are particularly important for the survival of the relationship for gay,
lesbian, and interethnic couples.
A) Positivity
B) Openness
C) Social networks
D) Sharing tasks
8. Which type of couple is likely to rely on technology most heavily for communication?
A) Gay and lesbian
B) Interethnic
C) Married
D) Military
9. Partners in a relationship are more likely to share digital tools if they __________.
A) have been together for a long time
B) come from different ethnic backgrounds
C) are members of the military
D) live a great distance from each other
10. Males often use cross-sex friendships __________.
A) to obtain a female perspective
B) for emotional support
C) to help them build same-sex friendships
D) for financial gain
11. Which statement about friends-with-benefits (FWB) relationships is true?
A) positivity and assurances
B) openness and shared activities
C) shared activities and social networks
D) positivity and openness
12. The two parts of maintaining relationships include how you think about others and
__________.
A) the type of technology used to communicate with others
B) how often you communicate with others
C) why you think that way about them
D) how you behave toward others
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13. Which statement about connecting bids is true?
A) They are critical to maintaining relationships.
B) There is only one way a partner can respond to them.
C) They must be deep to have an impact.
D) They must be direct and verbal to have an impact.
14. During divorces, husbands most often turn __________ their wives’ connecting bids.
A) away from
B) toward
C) against
D) around
15. Maintaining a healthy relationship requires ___________.
A) taking action based on instinct
B) a significant fear of uncertainty
C) nurturing mutual commitment
D) ignoring connecting bids
16. Which statement about conflict is true?
A) It occurs only between partners who often gripe and complain.
B) It occurs only between partners who are often positive.
C) It occurs only when positive partners have a complaint.
D) It is inevitable, regardless of what the relationship is like.
17. Which is a common behavioral cause of conflict in a relationship?
A) Being critical
B) Jealousy
C) Having a personality defect
D) Thinking inappropriate thoughts
18. __________ is a common form of rule breaking in relationships.
A) Making unreasonable demands
B) Rebuffing the other person
C) Jealousy
D) Cheating
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19. __________ conflict centers around a partner’s perceived characteristics.
A) Behavior
B) Personality
C) Financial
D) Relational rules
20. The competitive fighting conflict style is __________.
A) indirect and uncooperative
B) indirect and cooperative
C) direct and uncooperative
D) direct and cooperative
21. Kevin had planned to spend the evening alone, watching an old horror movie, but his
friend invited himself over to watch it with him. Although Kevin didn’t really want his friend
there, he decided that in the long run, it wasn’t that big of a deal, so he didn’t argue with him.
Which conflict style did Kevin use?
A) Compromising
B) Yielding
C) Collaborating
D) Indirect fighting
22. Which of the following is a common withdrawal strategy?
A) Violence
B) Silent treatment
C) Screaming
D) Negative reciprocity
23. When engaging in conflict, it is productive to __________.
A) have positive expectations
B) express criticisms strongly
C) let your emotions guide your behavior
D) deny that the conflict exists
24. To enjoy successful relationships, we must be active participants in them.
A) True
B) False
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25. Commitment is a better predictor of stability than are feelings of love.
A) True
B) False
26. Maintenance behaviors are typically routine, daily actions we use to bond with others.
A) True
B) False
27. Maintenance behaviors do not vary across communication channels.
A) True
B) False
28. People commonly use both e-mail and social media to maintain offline and online
relationships.
A) True
B) False
29. For long-distance relationships, those who use technology to maintain their relationship
report lower levels of love compared to those who don’t.
A) True
B) False
30. Technology allows people in a relationship to communicate more quickly today than in
the past.
A) True
B) False
31. We must use different behaviors to maintain different types of relationships.
A) True
B) False
32. It’s not enough for us to just enter into romantic relationships—we must actively
maintain them or they will deteriorate.
A) True
B) False
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33. Assurances increase the level of commitment and trust between two partners.
A) True
B) False
34. Sharing tasks is regarded as the least frequently used maintenance behavior for romantic
partners.
A) True
B) False
35. Monitoring of romantic partners is more accepted as normal online than offline.
A) True
B) False
36. Friendships require as much contact as do romantic relationships.
A) True
B) False
37. Friendships are built on sharing activities.
A) True
B) False
38. College friends use social media more for connecting with old high school friends and
keeping up with current friends than for beginning new friendships.
A) True
B) False
39. By late adolescence, many males show less interest in opening up.
A) True
B) False
40. Workplace relationships have become far less common today and are even seen as
contributing to a negative workplace environment.
A) True
B) False
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41. People make decisions to act based on their interpretation of what’s going on around
them. A) True
B) False
42. It’s best to hold back your feelings and avoid conflict when you’re upset with your
partner.
A) True
B) False
43. An important guiding principle for maintaining relationships is to understand that people
and relationships continually transform over time.
A) True
B) False
44. There is a direct link between the number of arguments a married couple has and their
relationship happiness.
A) True
B) False
45. Avoiding refers to using passive-aggressive tactics.
A) True
B) False
46. With cascading negativity, couples move from complaints, to contempt, to
defensiveness, and then to stonewalling.
A) True
B) False
47. Women experience emotional flooding sooner than men, and they take longer to return
to their normal heart rates.
A) True
B) False
48. When engaged in conflict with a romantic partner, it helps to keep positivity in balance
with negativity.
A) True
B) False
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49. ____________________ refers to the actions we take to sustain desired levels in our
relationships.
50. ___________________ is defined as investment in a relationship.
51. ___________________ is being direct, sharing private thoughts and feelings, giving
advice, listening, and discussing the future.
52. ___________________ is doing chore-like work together.
53. ___________________ is spending time enjoying each other’s company.
54. ___________________ are those daily overtures of connection we make to our partners.
55. When a partner recognizes your bid and then quickly shifts to self-centered interests, it is
called a(n) __________________ response.
56. A(n) _________________ response is one of annoyance and aggression.
57. A(n) _________________ response shows how much your partner values and
understands you.
58. __________________ is a struggle that occurs when partners reveal what they see as
incompatible interests.
59. The ways that partners react to each other and how these reactions affect the conflict are
called _____________________.
60. ___________________ is when negativity triggers more negativity.
61. __________________ is a natural response to feeling attacked.
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62. ___________________, or withdrawing, happens when a partner feels attacked and
moves to protect him- or herself.
63. ___________________ occurs when a person’s heart rate and blood pressure skyrocket,
his or her muscles tense, breathing is difficult, and it is hard to think.
64. Explain how the Internet is used to maintain relationships, especially as it relates to
long-distance relationships and the speed at which we are able to communicate.
65. Describe the benefits and challenges of cross-sex friendships.
66. Explain what a friends-with-benefits (FWB) relationship involves. What are the benefits
and challenges of this type of relationship?
67. What is interpersonal conflict? Describe the three categories of the common causes of
conflict.
68. Identify and describe three ways to stay respectful, strong, and positive in conflict. Give
an example of each.
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Answer Key
1. A
2. B
3. B
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45. B
46. A