Close Encounters: Communication In Relationships, Fourth Edition
Laura K. Guerrero, Peter A. Anderson, and Walid A. Afifi
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Chapter 13 – Hurting the Ones We Love
Test Questions
Multiple Choice
1. The metaphor “kiss of the porcupines” refers to which of the following
statements?
a. People are like porcupines in that they like to “burrow” into their
relationships.
2. According to your textbook, the most intense hurt feelings arise when a partner’s
words or actions communicate ________________.
d. metafrustration
3. Transgressions occur when:
a. people become unhappy in their relationship(s).
4. The three actions that people most commonly identify as relational transgressions
are:
d. making false accusations, dating or flirting with others, and personal insults
5. According to the evolutionary hypothesis discussed in your text book, men and
women react differently to emotional and sexual infidelity because:
a. men can’t talk about their feelings as well as women can.
6. According to the double shot hypothesis, men and women react differently to
emotional and sexual infidelity because:
a. men can’t talk about their feelings as well as women can.
7. Research reported in your textbook suggests that people are most likely to forgive
their partner for engaging in sexual infidelity when:
a. they witness the infidelity firsthand
8. Which of the following is NOT one of the types of jealousy mentioned in your
textbook?
a. activity jealousy
9. When someone wants something of value that someone else has, he or she is
experiencing:
a. jealousy.
10. Which of the following is a primary appraisal of a jealousy-producing situation?
a. trying to figure out your partner’s motives
11. Which of the following sets of emotions have been found to be related to the
experience of jealousy?
a. love, appreciation, sexual arousal
12. Which of the following is NOT one of the destructive responses to jealousy?
a. counterjealousy induction
13. Which of the following is the best example of a compensatory restoration
response to jealousy?
a. Jason presses the redial button on his girlfriend’s telephone to see who she
called
Close Encounters: Communication In Relationships, Fourth Edition
Laura K. Guerrero, Peter A. Anderson, and Walid A. Afifi
Instructor Resource
a. cultural scripts
22. This type of violence tends to be reciprocal (meaning that both partner’s use it)
and to occur in the midst of conflict.
a. intimate terrorism
23. According to your readings and class lecture, the most important criterion for
defining intimate terrorism is that it:
a. is reciprocal
24. Hyperintimacy, a common form of cyber-ORI includes:
a. excessively disclosive messages.
25. Obsessive relational intrusion includes:
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32. Counterjealousy inductions occur when a person joins a class or treatment
program for their excessive jealousy.
33. Jealousy can be a sign of love and attachment, but it can also be both a symptom
and a cause of relational distress.
34. Women tend to have fewer jealous feelings than men.
35. Jealous women report using integrative communication, expressing emotion, and
using counterjealousy inductions more often than jealous men.
36. Stalking behaviors constitute repeated and unwanted contact that is threatening
and/or fear-provoking.
37. People from collectivist cultures view deception as more acceptable.
Essay
38. What is cyberstalking and why is it a problem? In your opinion has the internet
and social media made stalking a more serious issue than before social media.’
Ans: Varies
39. Please identify five common responses to jealousy. Next, indicate which, if any,
of these responses are most likely to reduce jealous feelings and thought.
Ans: Varies
40. What is obsessive relational intrusion and why is it a concern of relational
communication researchers? Please list some forms of ORI and some possible
ways people cope with others’ ORI
Ans: Varies
41. What is unrequited love and what are some choices for such lovers. What are
some reactions of their partner to that kind of a situation?
Ans: Varies
42. What is deception? Under what circumstances is it least acceptable or moral?
Under what circumstances might it be a good thing?
Ans: Varies