“We don’t belong to others, we belong to ourselves”. My personal motto, which defines
who I really am, turns my life to a new page, and raises my hope again whenever I feel
lost. According to Bowlby (1969), an internal working model is a cognitive framework to
show the understanding of the world, self and others. That strongly affects the social
behavior and social relationships of children when they grow up. I don’t blame or feel
regret but I have to say that I was taught that there is something called the family’s fame
that is more important than myself. Hence, personal wants or something out of the rules
is unaccepted. I have experienced those days of wonder of who I am, unbelief in myself
and fall to the codependence relationship. My life motto, a crack in my awareness,
totally creates a new me, makes me realize that this is my life not others and I have to
stand on my own feet and control my own life. Step by step, I try to get out of my old
one by raising my own voice and bravely having a conversation and explain what
person I always hide to my parents, choose and apply to the my dream university not
my parents, and earn the first salary by my hands.