Management of Change Journal
Personal/Interpersonal Change
Entry 1:
On Thursday night February 10th, I left work at 8:30 p.m. Earlier that day my boyfriend
asked if I had plans to go out that night. At the time I felt tired and I said no. Once I got
home my friends called and asked if I would go to Riley with them and of course I did. I
am the type of person that doesnt go out very often, because I stay so busy with school and
by the end of the day Im usually too tired. I was out having a good time with the girls,
when he called and asked where I was. I told him I was at Riley with some friends; I could
tell by the sound of his voice he wasnt happy with the situation. His behavior became
aggressive, and because I had been drinking I became defensive. Some of the friends I
went out with that night he seems not to get along with and feels that they have a negative
influence on me. The conversation ended with him hanging up on me. We both engaged in
aggressive behavior, because we were yelling at each other and said some things that
normally would not have been said if we would have dealt with the situation differently. I
lost focus of the problem because of anger and neither of us got our point across. I should
have called and let him know ahead of time that I was going out with my friends and none
of this would have happened. From this situation I have learned to be more considerate
towards him with my actions and communicate without saying things out of anger that
occur from the situation.
The Material we covered in class relating to aggressive behavior is that we both expressed
our feelings in a negative inappropriate fashion. We both also lost the message during
expression because we both became angry and the point wasnt conveyed properly. He also
wasnt positively influencing my behavior, because I just became angry and defensive with
him.
He became aggressive when I told him where I was at, and I didnt call before I had went
out to Riley. I became aggressive when he crossed on my side of the invisible net, and said
the friends I was with was a negative influence.
I learned that I need to be more responsible with my actions, like calling before I decide to
go out and make plans ahead of time. Also instead of raising my tone of voice I should
speak more calmly and remain more assertive.
Entry 2:
Friday afternoon February 11th I was taking a nap around 3:00 p.m. when my roommate
decided to do laundry, knowing that I was sleeping, and because the washer and dryer is in
my room, the least to say I wasnt happy about that idea. She bursts into my room; it
seemed as if she was trying to wake me up and proceeds to wash her clothes. So I get up
and say to her, Do you need any of your laundry clean before tonight? She said no. So I
told her Is it ok if I start the laundry for you once I wake up because I am really tired? We
both engaged in assertive behavior, because we both were satisfied with the decision to do
the laundry at a later time. Normally I would never have asked her to wait but I had been
up late the night before studying for a test. We usually never have problems because we
have known each other for so long and know when were pushing each others buttons. We
have been best friends since elementary school and now were in college together so were
like sisters, when we do have our disagreements their usually settled within the next hour
or so. Neither of us imposed on the invisible net and we avoided negative communication.
The material we covered in class relating to assertive behavior is that we both expressed
our feelings in a positive appropriate fashion. We both respected each others decisions
about doing the laundry at a later time, and we were very effective in influencing each
others behavior.
I feel that I was in a situation that could have been aggressive, passive or assertive. This
situation was easier for me though because my roommate and I are really close and we
understand each other on a level like sisters. We were both assertive so the situation was
very optimistic.
I learned from the situation that being assertive isnt as hard as it seems. That
communication is a whole lot easier when each person has an understanding about each
others requests.
Entry 3:
On Friday February 11th our electric bill came in the mail that morning. My bank account
had been over drafted for about two weeks and I had paid most of it on my own but I was
still negative about $40. I hadnt planned on telling my mom about the over draft fee, but at
this point I really didnt have a choice. When she called she asked if I needed any money to
get groceries or if I had any bills to pay. So since she mentioned it I figured it would be a
good time to go ahead and tell her the bad news. So I said; Mom I think Ill need you to put
in more money for an over draft fee. So of coarse she was really angry with me and her
