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Tami Chappell for The New York Times
Ms. Tidwell will probably rack up
$250,000 in debt by the time she is
done with sc hool.
early on in their relationship that she
had over $100,000 of debt. But, she
said, even she didn’t know what the
true balance was; like a car buyer who focuses on only the
monthly payment, she wrote 12 checks a year for about
$1,100 each, the minimum possible. She didn’t focus on
the bottom line, she said, because it was so profoundly
depressing.
But as the couple got closer to their wedding day, she took
out all the paperwork and it became clear that her total
debt was actually about $170,000. “He accused me of
lying,” said Ms. Eastman, 31, a San Francisco X-ray
technician and part-time photographer who had run up
much of the balance studying for a bachelor’s degree in
photography. “But if I was lying, I was lying to myself, not
to him. I didn’t really want to know the full amount.”
At a time when even people with no graduate degrees,
like Ms. Eastman, often end up six figures in the hole and
people getting married for the second time have loads of
debt from their earlier lives, it should come as no surprise
that debt can bust up engagements. Even when couples
disclose their debt in detail, it poses a series of
challenges.
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