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Savera Shaikh
Kristin M. Smith
ENGLISH 1A/1AS
02/11/2020
Emotional Intelligence
If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, … then no matter how smart you are,
you are not going to get very far.
Daniel Goleman is referring to the relationship between your emotional intelligence and
intelligence quotient that high scores has nothing or very little to do in your life. Intellectual
intelligence and technical skills will only take you so far in leadership, but emotional intelligence
will take you farther. As we know, it’s not the smartest people who are the most successful or the
most fulfilled in life. You probably know people who are academically brilliant and yet are
socially inept and unsuccessful at work or in their personal relationships. Intellectual ability or
your intelligence quotient (IQ) isn’t enough on its own to achieve success in life. Yes, your IQ
can help you get into college, but it’s your EQ that will help you manage the stress and emotions
when facing your final exams. IQ and EQ exist in tandem and are most effective when they build
off one another. Emotional Intelligence is a way of identifying and manage the emotions of one’s
self, and of others. It consists of four basic capabilities that are, Self-awareness; that is a process
of understanding your feelings and emotions, Self-Regulation; is the ability to control your
emotions and responses to situations and other people appropriately, Social awareness; This
means that being socially aware relates to being aware of your surroundings, as well as being
able to accurately understand the emotions of people with whom you interact, Relationship
Management; It allows you to connect with other’s by knowing their emotions as well as yours. It
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is essential that you help them feel understood and supported. It is the bond you build with others
over time. It all began about 2,000 years ago when Plato wrote, “All learning has an emotional
base.” Since then, scientists, educators, and philosophers have worked to prove or disprove the
importance of feelings. In 1990 psychologists Peter Salovey and John Mayer publish their
landmark article, “Emotional Intelligence,”. In 1995, The concept of emotional intelligence is
popularized after publication of psychologist and New York Times science writer Daniel
Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.
Becoming aware of your emotions is important because it will allow you to question their
root causes and perhaps find a solution. You are not snapping at your children because they are
running and playing around, it’s a frustration from something else that you can’t recognize and
acting out. Being self-aware is about the process of understanding yourself. Give time to your
